GET YOUR HOUSE IN ORDER
I hate to be the one to tell you that there is definitely an order to marriage. Established from the first documented couple, Adam and Eve. The Husband is the head of the household and the wife is SECOND in command. Should I repeat it or was it plain enough? First the man then the woman. If we can find our way back to order, things can flow so much better! Husbands as the leader and wives happily submitting to their spouse. I know that most ladies have a problem with that statement so I am prepared to explain myself in detail. By the time you finish reading this blog there should be no harsh feelings, no misunderstandings, and you might even have a change of heart (I HOPE-HEHEHE) concerning the word submit!
I say that man is the head simply because of the order of creation. I believe that man was created first for a significant purpose! Man and woman could have been created at the same time, but they were not. Woman was created from man and even named by him. If we can agree on the order of creation as it pertains to man and woman, lets move on to defining what the headship is. HEADSHIP IS NOT DOMINATION! Headship is simply a rank. Headship is a given, but leadership/respect is earned while occupying the mantle of headship! Husbands must have the capacity to lead!
Being born male doesn't make you fit to lead. Leadership is a characteristic that is built over time. Life situations and circumstances bring out the courage, strength, and wisdom it takes to lead! Can you feel the weight of the "headship" mantle? That's why marriage is not to be entered into lightly! We have been picking husbands based on looks and status when the real criteria is integrity, faithfulness, and resourcefulness. Men need to know that it is their responsibility to take care of the family! Even if your wife works a full time job and makes more money than you, THE HUSBAND IS EXPECTED TO PROVIDE A LIVING FOR HIS FAMILY! A good husband needs to have a clear vision for his family also! Who we are, what we stand for, what we believe, and where we are going, all need to be established and set forth by the husband (with the wife's help of course). It was not good for man to be alone and he needed companionship (a help-mate)! Wifey/A help mate is just that, we HELP you meet the vision that you have set forth for our family. A loving husband doesn't use his authority to get his way but, he lovingly grants his wife the pleasure of ruling his kingdom right along side him. A good husband will admit to the world that he couldn't be who he is without his wife! That's the kind of man I married. I don't mind at all submitting to him! In fact, its an honor and I have full confidence that he will do everything in his power to protect me, provide for me, and love me til death do us part!
In our society today, women hold very powerful positions in the work place! Women are heads of corporations and leaders of states. Women are raising families without male influence and educating themselves to the highest degrees! Its a wonderful time to be a woman! While the rise of the "Almighty Woman" still climbs, it seems the fall of family is on a steady incline as well! This revolution of power for women has left the family void of the male imprint. Please don't get me wrong, I think a woman should work if she chooses to. I don't believe its anything wrong with education and great success. I do believe there is something terribly awry when I hear women say, "I don't need a man"! God made woman complex and strong, but let us never forget that God created woman FOR MAN! THAT WAS YOUR FIRST PURPOSE-TO BE A COMPANION, TO BE A WIFE!
Webster's dictionary defines submission as this: the condition of being submissive, humble, or compliant. An act of submitting to the authority of another. Does that definition put a bad taste in your mouth? Why would you marry someone that you don't trust with your life? Why would you marry someone that you don't respect enough to follow? Let's look at some examples. You might be smarter and more qualified than your boss on the job, but everyday you go to work and you submit to the order of that company. If you can do it at work, surely you can do it at home! Submission doesn't mean you are your husband's servant and that you walk around like a slave! It means, you acknowledge your husband is the leader, qualified to handle your respect with great care! A happily married couple understands that the wife should be consulted on EVERYTHING and in many cases, The wife will be granted the authority (by her husband) to run the whole crazy ship! Happily married couples have an unspoken understanding; wifey, being second in command, "might appear to be in control", but big daddy is the oil that keeps the whole machine running! Think of it this way. When you were a young child growing up. No one had to tell you that the big brother was in charge, in the absence of parental figures, it was just understood rank amongst siblings! The same underlying rules apply in marriage.
Who makes the most money has nothing to do with headship. Who has the most education has nothing to do with it either. Wives that make millions and order hundreds of people around all day long have to learn to leave that "I'm the boss" attitude at work. Wives must honor their husbands enough to answer to him (mostly hypothetically because no husband I know even feels the need to question his wife as if she were a child). If we as women would tell the truth, WE ARE TIRED OF BEARING BURDENS TO HEAVY TO HOLD LET ALONE CARRY! I AM SO THANKFUL THAT I AM MY HUSBANDS RESPONSIBILITY! All my life I have wanted to feel like someone has my back! Before I married I would always asked myself, who takes care of you? My husband has provided the answer. Husbands are a covering for their wives!
Husbands take your rightful place in the marriage! Not with puffed up words but in demonstration of power and authority! Show your wife who you are and what you are made of! Every day that you work hard you are saying to her, "I can provide for you"! During the course of my seventeen year marriage my husband has lost a job or two. It was in those times when I wanted to be fearful that he would take on a "By any means necessary" attitude to make ends meet! No job was beneath him to feed his family. My level of respect for him grew by leaps and bounds! When my husband tells me not to worry today, I DON'T WORRY - I BELIEVE WITH ALL THAT'S IN ME THAT HE WILL TAKE CARE OF THE SITUATION! HE HAS EARNED MY TRUST, RESPECT, REVERANCE, AND UNCONDITIONAL LOVE! Husbands, spend your days proving yourself worthy of the mantle of headship! Be the assurance that we women crave! Wives, learn to lean on and depend on your husbands! Be the soft feminine flower that understands him. Respect him for staying committed and faithful! So many men have fallen trying to fill those (heavy at times) shoes called marriage and your husband is still standing! Let's get our houses in order and be happily married. O.K.?? O.K.!!
I say that man is the head simply because of the order of creation. I believe that man was created first for a significant purpose! Man and woman could have been created at the same time, but they were not. Woman was created from man and even named by him. If we can agree on the order of creation as it pertains to man and woman, lets move on to defining what the headship is. HEADSHIP IS NOT DOMINATION! Headship is simply a rank. Headship is a given, but leadership/respect is earned while occupying the mantle of headship! Husbands must have the capacity to lead!
Being born male doesn't make you fit to lead. Leadership is a characteristic that is built over time. Life situations and circumstances bring out the courage, strength, and wisdom it takes to lead! Can you feel the weight of the "headship" mantle? That's why marriage is not to be entered into lightly! We have been picking husbands based on looks and status when the real criteria is integrity, faithfulness, and resourcefulness. Men need to know that it is their responsibility to take care of the family! Even if your wife works a full time job and makes more money than you, THE HUSBAND IS EXPECTED TO PROVIDE A LIVING FOR HIS FAMILY! A good husband needs to have a clear vision for his family also! Who we are, what we stand for, what we believe, and where we are going, all need to be established and set forth by the husband (with the wife's help of course). It was not good for man to be alone and he needed companionship (a help-mate)! Wifey/A help mate is just that, we HELP you meet the vision that you have set forth for our family. A loving husband doesn't use his authority to get his way but, he lovingly grants his wife the pleasure of ruling his kingdom right along side him. A good husband will admit to the world that he couldn't be who he is without his wife! That's the kind of man I married. I don't mind at all submitting to him! In fact, its an honor and I have full confidence that he will do everything in his power to protect me, provide for me, and love me til death do us part!
In our society today, women hold very powerful positions in the work place! Women are heads of corporations and leaders of states. Women are raising families without male influence and educating themselves to the highest degrees! Its a wonderful time to be a woman! While the rise of the "Almighty Woman" still climbs, it seems the fall of family is on a steady incline as well! This revolution of power for women has left the family void of the male imprint. Please don't get me wrong, I think a woman should work if she chooses to. I don't believe its anything wrong with education and great success. I do believe there is something terribly awry when I hear women say, "I don't need a man"! God made woman complex and strong, but let us never forget that God created woman FOR MAN! THAT WAS YOUR FIRST PURPOSE-TO BE A COMPANION, TO BE A WIFE!
Webster's dictionary defines submission as this: the condition of being submissive, humble, or compliant. An act of submitting to the authority of another. Does that definition put a bad taste in your mouth? Why would you marry someone that you don't trust with your life? Why would you marry someone that you don't respect enough to follow? Let's look at some examples. You might be smarter and more qualified than your boss on the job, but everyday you go to work and you submit to the order of that company. If you can do it at work, surely you can do it at home! Submission doesn't mean you are your husband's servant and that you walk around like a slave! It means, you acknowledge your husband is the leader, qualified to handle your respect with great care! A happily married couple understands that the wife should be consulted on EVERYTHING and in many cases, The wife will be granted the authority (by her husband) to run the whole crazy ship! Happily married couples have an unspoken understanding; wifey, being second in command, "might appear to be in control", but big daddy is the oil that keeps the whole machine running! Think of it this way. When you were a young child growing up. No one had to tell you that the big brother was in charge, in the absence of parental figures, it was just understood rank amongst siblings! The same underlying rules apply in marriage.
Who makes the most money has nothing to do with headship. Who has the most education has nothing to do with it either. Wives that make millions and order hundreds of people around all day long have to learn to leave that "I'm the boss" attitude at work. Wives must honor their husbands enough to answer to him (mostly hypothetically because no husband I know even feels the need to question his wife as if she were a child). If we as women would tell the truth, WE ARE TIRED OF BEARING BURDENS TO HEAVY TO HOLD LET ALONE CARRY! I AM SO THANKFUL THAT I AM MY HUSBANDS RESPONSIBILITY! All my life I have wanted to feel like someone has my back! Before I married I would always asked myself, who takes care of you? My husband has provided the answer. Husbands are a covering for their wives!
Husbands take your rightful place in the marriage! Not with puffed up words but in demonstration of power and authority! Show your wife who you are and what you are made of! Every day that you work hard you are saying to her, "I can provide for you"! During the course of my seventeen year marriage my husband has lost a job or two. It was in those times when I wanted to be fearful that he would take on a "By any means necessary" attitude to make ends meet! No job was beneath him to feed his family. My level of respect for him grew by leaps and bounds! When my husband tells me not to worry today, I DON'T WORRY - I BELIEVE WITH ALL THAT'S IN ME THAT HE WILL TAKE CARE OF THE SITUATION! HE HAS EARNED MY TRUST, RESPECT, REVERANCE, AND UNCONDITIONAL LOVE! Husbands, spend your days proving yourself worthy of the mantle of headship! Be the assurance that we women crave! Wives, learn to lean on and depend on your husbands! Be the soft feminine flower that understands him. Respect him for staying committed and faithful! So many men have fallen trying to fill those (heavy at times) shoes called marriage and your husband is still standing! Let's get our houses in order and be happily married. O.K.?? O.K.!!
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