PRESERVE THE SEXY!
Alright blog friends, we are all adults and therefore, mature enough to understand that to have a happy marriage you must have a fulfilling sex life. Why should anyone have to be advised about how to conduct themselves behind closed doors with their spouse? You would think that anyone getting married would already understand how important a healthy sex life is in a relationship but, out of the top three reasons listed for divorce, SEX is number two (right after money issues). Its o.k. to admit that you can use some help in that area. You weren't given a how-to manual with your marriage license and with all the day to day strain and stress, it's easy to get out of a sexy mentality. My objective is to point out the problem areas and suggest some solutions. If you are serious about having the best marriage possible, you will have to evaluate your sex life on a regular basis.
The most important thing I want the wives to realize is this.... MEN NEED SEX! NEED (A condition or situation in which something is required or wanted.) is a strong word but it is most appropriate for this discussion. Understand the weight of that statement and you will be less likely to complain of having a headache or being too tired for sex. Like we all need food and water to live - your husband needs plenty of sex to be happily married! As the Mrs., you (and only you) are the source of his supply! Every man's desire is different depending on a range of circumstances but, across the board needing sex is a non-negotiable standard requirement for all married men (brothers-can I get an amen? SMILE*). Regularly and routinely.... quick sessions, spur of the moment sessions, "Just because" sessions, "I had a bad day" session, "It's been a good day" session, "Call it anything you want - just keep them coming" sessions! HUSBANDS NEED SEX-POINT BLANK-PERIOD!
What the men need to understand is that your wife enjoys sex as much as you do. We are aspiring to be all you need in terms of frequency but, majority of the time we will need mind stimulation and intimacy! Intimacy has nothing to do with the actual sex act. Intimacy has everything to do with leading up to the love making session. A quick phone call or text early in the day to set the stage for later. A soft pat on the bottom when you pass us in the kitchen to let us know we are still desirable! Although technically, the wife's body belongs to the husband and you husbands have every right to have us whenever you like.... We (wives) want to feel that our desires, mood, and level of satisfaction is also being considered. Wives don't like to be taken for granted in a sexual manner. CONNECT TO YOUR WIFE BEFORE YOU GET TO THE BEDROOM BY BEING AFFECTIONATE AND SHE WILL BE MORE READILY RESPONSIVE SEXUALLY!
Husbands and wives need to take responsibility for preserving the sexy and realize this.... if anything is wrong, it is your job to fix it! Communicate what feels good and what doesn't! Ladies.... throw away your granny panties and you husbands get rid of those old torn boxers! Sexy is all about the visual and mental as well as the physical. If it is difficult for you to look at your body in the mirror and like what you see, why do you think your spouse should have a different response? No one expects you to stay the same weight as you were as a teenager, but you must consider your spouse's attraction to you to help you stay motivated about being fit (whatever that looks like to you) and healthy! We all would like to live in make believe worlds where what you look like naked has no bearing on how attractive you are, but the reality, for some people is that excess weight can be a turn off or an inhibition to how sexy you feel! Being healthy and feeling good from eating nutritious meals and getting regular exercise can only enhance your love making and boost your self-esteem! Sexy is not a dress size so don't concentrate solely on weight. Sexy is new sheets on the bed or a new night gown. Whatever feels good to you both and keeps you in a loving sexy mood, that's what you should be concentrating on most.
Love making should be treated as a ritual. Present yourself clean, smelling & looking good! I am not talking about the little quickie sessions that might happen on the spur of the moment (this type of session is very necessary and should not be under rated). I am talking about taking the time to light some candles and put on some sweet love making music (anointing the atmosphere). Who wants to make love to amazing grace (no offense to my religious readers). I have to point that out because in my own life I found myself trying to be so "holy" that I forgot how to be a hottie! PLEASE ALLOW ME TO RESPECTFULLY SAY THAT RELIGION HAS NO PLACE IN THE MARRIED COUPLES BEDROOM! AS LONG AS YOU ARE NOT ENVOLVING ANY ANIMALS IN YOUR SEX LIFE.... The marriage bed is undefiled (pure, having no faults, unblemished, uncorrupted)! It's not a sin to enjoy your spouse sexually! Turn the television off so there is no distraction. Tune in to each other! When you want to spice things up (i.e.-toys, edibles, etc.), consult with your mate to ensure what you are planning is agreeable to you both. You might be surprised to find that your mate has been wanting to express themselves differently but didn't know how to bring up the subject.
Sexy is scrambling eggs in red stiletto peep toe heels! Sexy is a bottle of wine and two glasses waiting by a hot bubble bath. Sexy is wearing nothing but diamonds TO BED WITH YOUR MAN! Sexy is giving your wife a soothing back rub! Sexy is clearing the table and putting the kids to sleep so the wife can prepare herself for alone time with you! Sexy is loving each other until death do you part! Sexy is a soft touch or a gentle kiss! Sexy is a warm embrace or a quick wink of the eye! A GOOD SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP IS A MUST TO HAVE A HAPPY MARRIAGE! Do your marriage a favor and promise to always preserve the sexy! O.K.?? O.K.!!
The most important thing I want the wives to realize is this.... MEN NEED SEX! NEED (A condition or situation in which something is required or wanted.) is a strong word but it is most appropriate for this discussion. Understand the weight of that statement and you will be less likely to complain of having a headache or being too tired for sex. Like we all need food and water to live - your husband needs plenty of sex to be happily married! As the Mrs., you (and only you) are the source of his supply! Every man's desire is different depending on a range of circumstances but, across the board needing sex is a non-negotiable standard requirement for all married men (brothers-can I get an amen? SMILE*). Regularly and routinely.... quick sessions, spur of the moment sessions, "Just because" sessions, "I had a bad day" session, "It's been a good day" session, "Call it anything you want - just keep them coming" sessions! HUSBANDS NEED SEX-POINT BLANK-PERIOD!
What the men need to understand is that your wife enjoys sex as much as you do. We are aspiring to be all you need in terms of frequency but, majority of the time we will need mind stimulation and intimacy! Intimacy has nothing to do with the actual sex act. Intimacy has everything to do with leading up to the love making session. A quick phone call or text early in the day to set the stage for later. A soft pat on the bottom when you pass us in the kitchen to let us know we are still desirable! Although technically, the wife's body belongs to the husband and you husbands have every right to have us whenever you like.... We (wives) want to feel that our desires, mood, and level of satisfaction is also being considered. Wives don't like to be taken for granted in a sexual manner. CONNECT TO YOUR WIFE BEFORE YOU GET TO THE BEDROOM BY BEING AFFECTIONATE AND SHE WILL BE MORE READILY RESPONSIVE SEXUALLY!
Husbands and wives need to take responsibility for preserving the sexy and realize this.... if anything is wrong, it is your job to fix it! Communicate what feels good and what doesn't! Ladies.... throw away your granny panties and you husbands get rid of those old torn boxers! Sexy is all about the visual and mental as well as the physical. If it is difficult for you to look at your body in the mirror and like what you see, why do you think your spouse should have a different response? No one expects you to stay the same weight as you were as a teenager, but you must consider your spouse's attraction to you to help you stay motivated about being fit (whatever that looks like to you) and healthy! We all would like to live in make believe worlds where what you look like naked has no bearing on how attractive you are, but the reality, for some people is that excess weight can be a turn off or an inhibition to how sexy you feel! Being healthy and feeling good from eating nutritious meals and getting regular exercise can only enhance your love making and boost your self-esteem! Sexy is not a dress size so don't concentrate solely on weight. Sexy is new sheets on the bed or a new night gown. Whatever feels good to you both and keeps you in a loving sexy mood, that's what you should be concentrating on most.
Love making should be treated as a ritual. Present yourself clean, smelling & looking good! I am not talking about the little quickie sessions that might happen on the spur of the moment (this type of session is very necessary and should not be under rated). I am talking about taking the time to light some candles and put on some sweet love making music (anointing the atmosphere). Who wants to make love to amazing grace (no offense to my religious readers). I have to point that out because in my own life I found myself trying to be so "holy" that I forgot how to be a hottie! PLEASE ALLOW ME TO RESPECTFULLY SAY THAT RELIGION HAS NO PLACE IN THE MARRIED COUPLES BEDROOM! AS LONG AS YOU ARE NOT ENVOLVING ANY ANIMALS IN YOUR SEX LIFE.... The marriage bed is undefiled (pure, having no faults, unblemished, uncorrupted)! It's not a sin to enjoy your spouse sexually! Turn the television off so there is no distraction. Tune in to each other! When you want to spice things up (i.e.-toys, edibles, etc.), consult with your mate to ensure what you are planning is agreeable to you both. You might be surprised to find that your mate has been wanting to express themselves differently but didn't know how to bring up the subject.
Sexy is scrambling eggs in red stiletto peep toe heels! Sexy is a bottle of wine and two glasses waiting by a hot bubble bath. Sexy is wearing nothing but diamonds TO BED WITH YOUR MAN! Sexy is giving your wife a soothing back rub! Sexy is clearing the table and putting the kids to sleep so the wife can prepare herself for alone time with you! Sexy is loving each other until death do you part! Sexy is a soft touch or a gentle kiss! Sexy is a warm embrace or a quick wink of the eye! A GOOD SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP IS A MUST TO HAVE A HAPPY MARRIAGE! Do your marriage a favor and promise to always preserve the sexy! O.K.?? O.K.!!
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