ARE YOUR FRIENDSHIPS A HINDERANCE TO YOUR HAPPILY MARRIED LIFESTYLE?
We have talked about many different things over the course of a few weeks and I hope you have been enjoying the blog! Writing your life experiences for the whole world to read is quite intimidating but, if it helps just one couple get their relationship on the HAPPILY MARRIED TRACK, its worth being transparent. I will always tell you what I know to be true and not something I've heard! Fiction is cute however, when it come to trying to keep a marriage happy, we live in a real world with real challenges and we have no time for make believe! In 2016 the idea of marriage is becoming more popular. Monogamy and fidelity don't seem to be as "Taboo" as just five years ago. Although times are changing, marriage doesn't have the same moral standard today as it did when our grandparents were tying the knot. Now more than ever, it is very important to surround yourself with like minded people for support and understanding! Make no mistakes about it, friends who don't respect the sanctity of your union need to be kept at a distance!
I wouldn't dare say that all married people are faithful or that all single people are morally decrepit. I AM suggesting that ANYONE (married or single) WHO DOESN'T ENCOURAGE YOU TO DO THE RIGHT THING IN TERMS OF YOUR MARRIAGE, shouldn't be a hang out buddy. I have single friends in my life that love my spouse and celebrate our happiness! They encourage me to be the best wife I can be! A true friend will have no problem respecting the boundaries that you and your spouse have set for your relationship. You have to have a social life. A night out with friends is necessary from time to time. It is up to you and your spouse to discuss what is acceptable behavior and environments for these occasions. Are your friends aware that you are not willing to be put in situations that may jeopardize your happy home life?
If ever you were caught in a compromising position, would your friend pressure you to be a player (talking to the ladies also) or would they remind you of what you have at home? We all struggle within ourselves, at some point or another, to do what we know is right. Extra pressure and negative outside influence is just not needed!
Would you seek advice from a poor man on how to live rich? Would you seek advice from a caged man on how to live free? Then why in the world would you seek advice on how to be happily married from a "No relationship having" - "Multiple partner sleeping" - "Ain't never considered being faithful" friend? I wouldn't suggest you even discussing your relationship with those who don't want to be in monogamous relationships themselves! Stop talking to people about your marriage who are not in the place to give constructive criticism or sound advice! They can't understand the unique position you are in or the level of sensitivity that is needed to safely navigate through married life! The friend who loves their own spouse and honors their own vows will more than likely be a great source of information and inspiration to you in yours! Take inventory of who you have in your inner circle! Great faithful minds think alike! Birds of a cheating feather flock together!
The friends that say, "What your mate doesn't know wont hurt them" is the one you need to stay away from! The friend that always suggest you go to the strip club is the one you need to delete from your cell phone. A married person, trying to stay committed, hanging out in places where there is bound to be temptation and distraction is a divorce waiting to happen! You must guard your eyes and ears from seeing things that cause you to look at your spouse in an inadequate light. Images get embedded in your mind that can cause you to put unrealistic expectations on your spouse and therefore it jeopardizes your relationship. Please allow me to say this one time and one time only.... STRIPPERS {male and female} ARE PAID TO ACT LIKE THEY ARE FEELING YOU! YOU ARE PAYING THEM TO ACT ATTRACTED TO YOU! IT IS AN ILLUSION OF ATTRACTION! Your spouse's love and affection IS REAL AND GENUINE!
Do your friendships allow you to display your marital status openly and freely or do you have to act single to fit in? HAPPILY MARRIED PEOPLE NEED FRIENDSHIPS THAT SUPPORT THEM BEING HAPPILY MARRIED! O.K.?? O.K.!!
I wouldn't dare say that all married people are faithful or that all single people are morally decrepit. I AM suggesting that ANYONE (married or single) WHO DOESN'T ENCOURAGE YOU TO DO THE RIGHT THING IN TERMS OF YOUR MARRIAGE, shouldn't be a hang out buddy. I have single friends in my life that love my spouse and celebrate our happiness! They encourage me to be the best wife I can be! A true friend will have no problem respecting the boundaries that you and your spouse have set for your relationship. You have to have a social life. A night out with friends is necessary from time to time. It is up to you and your spouse to discuss what is acceptable behavior and environments for these occasions. Are your friends aware that you are not willing to be put in situations that may jeopardize your happy home life?
If ever you were caught in a compromising position, would your friend pressure you to be a player (talking to the ladies also) or would they remind you of what you have at home? We all struggle within ourselves, at some point or another, to do what we know is right. Extra pressure and negative outside influence is just not needed!
Would you seek advice from a poor man on how to live rich? Would you seek advice from a caged man on how to live free? Then why in the world would you seek advice on how to be happily married from a "No relationship having" - "Multiple partner sleeping" - "Ain't never considered being faithful" friend? I wouldn't suggest you even discussing your relationship with those who don't want to be in monogamous relationships themselves! Stop talking to people about your marriage who are not in the place to give constructive criticism or sound advice! They can't understand the unique position you are in or the level of sensitivity that is needed to safely navigate through married life! The friend who loves their own spouse and honors their own vows will more than likely be a great source of information and inspiration to you in yours! Take inventory of who you have in your inner circle! Great faithful minds think alike! Birds of a cheating feather flock together!
The friends that say, "What your mate doesn't know wont hurt them" is the one you need to stay away from! The friend that always suggest you go to the strip club is the one you need to delete from your cell phone. A married person, trying to stay committed, hanging out in places where there is bound to be temptation and distraction is a divorce waiting to happen! You must guard your eyes and ears from seeing things that cause you to look at your spouse in an inadequate light. Images get embedded in your mind that can cause you to put unrealistic expectations on your spouse and therefore it jeopardizes your relationship. Please allow me to say this one time and one time only.... STRIPPERS {male and female} ARE PAID TO ACT LIKE THEY ARE FEELING YOU! YOU ARE PAYING THEM TO ACT ATTRACTED TO YOU! IT IS AN ILLUSION OF ATTRACTION! Your spouse's love and affection IS REAL AND GENUINE!
Do your friendships allow you to display your marital status openly and freely or do you have to act single to fit in? HAPPILY MARRIED PEOPLE NEED FRIENDSHIPS THAT SUPPORT THEM BEING HAPPILY MARRIED! O.K.?? O.K.!!
NOT THAT MANY PPL IN MARRIAGES WILL SIT DOWN AND TAKE THE TIME TO TALK ABOUT THIS. I AGREE WITH U FULLY. I DEFINITELY AGREE NO ONE IN THIS WORLD IS PERFECT AND U WILL BE HIT WITH TEMPATATION REGARDLESS BUT U HAVE TO USE COMMMON SENSE TO KNOW TO STAY AWAY FROM PLACES AND PPL WHO WILL INFLUENCE U TO CHEAT ON UR MATE. THEY WILL SAY THINGS LIKE EXCUSE MY LANGUAGE DAM LOOK AT HIM OR HER. SHE GOT A FATTY OR ONG LOOK AT HIS SIX PACK OR U KNOW HE GOTTA BE HUNG. WE ARE NOT PERFECT AND THEY ALWAYS SAY CURIOSITY KILLE DTHE CAT AND SATISFACTION WILL BRING IT BACK. BUT WE ALSO HAVE TO REMEMBER THAT A NIGHTTIME OF PLEASURE CAN LEAD TO A LIFETIME OF PAIN. MY PARENTS HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 40 YRS NOW AND I WATCH MY POPS COME HOME DAILY. HOW MANY RELATIONSHIPS THESE DAYS LAST EVEN 4 YRS. I WANT A WOMAN THAT I WILL FIGHT TO THE DEATH AND LOVE FOREVER. I WANT 40 NOT 4.
ReplyDeleteTimothy....thanks for the feed back! The male perspective is so needed! You are blessed to have your parents to mirror for a healthy, happy, and life long marriage! 40 years is AWESOME!! Thanks again for your comment and please keep reading! SMILE*
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