LEAVING IS NOT AN OPTION!

23 years ago on June 12, 1993, my husband and I got married. 21 years old the both of us were and we knew very little about the level of commitment this relationship would require. We both came from single family homes, raised by our mothers, and we didn't really have many examples of happy/healthy marriages in our lives at that time. One thing we did have was an amazing love for one another and a desire to give to our children something we felt we never had, A LOVING TWO PARENT HOME.

We didn't enter into our marriage thinking that if this doesn't work, we can just get out of it. We both agreed that WE WOULD MAKE THIS WORK AT ALL COST! LEAVING WAS NEVER AN OPTION. The reassurance of that promise takes so much stress off of a relationship. The fear of rejection or abandonment is taken out of the equation early on and that is a great start to Happy Marriage. Knowing that your spouse won't leave you, gives you permission to express your feelings freely. If you agree to always do so in love and very respectfully, there's no doubt that you will stay together.

No argument or disagreement is so terrible that I pack my bags. No financial strain so great that I walk out on my husband. N O T H I N G is worth losing my marriage over! When you begin to think this way, you will find yourself resisting the urge to fight and rejecting the notion of flight. When you make the commitment to never leave you also commit to keeping your marriage healthy. A marriage that is rewarding is the happily married goal. A marriage that requires you to love out loud and reminds you every day that you are the wife of your husband's dreams.

Leaving the marriage is not an option! Adopt this as your marriage mantra. You will find yourself encouraging your mate and banding together where other couples have fallen apart. Your union will be fire proof! I know that every relationship will be tested and all of us will have our trials! To have a happy marriage you have to make it a priority and invest the time and energy it will take to keep the union strong! I am only suggesting that if you make up in your mind today - Your marriage is always worth fighting for and that Divorce is not an option. You are destined to be In Love til DEATH DO YOU PART! SO SAY IT WITH ME.... LEAVING IS NOT AN OPTION! O.K.? O.K.!

Comments

  1. charperJune 2, 2010 at 3:21 PM

    I'm sooo in agreement, love you philosphy on things...

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  2. Happily Married Wifey ↬ Marriage Mentor June 2, 2010 at 9:04 PM

    Thank you CHarper....Your comment made my day! (((SMILE)))

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  3. AnonymousDecember 20, 2011 at 6:21 PM

    I agree with you completly, but what if your spouse is always the one who is quick to leave? :(

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