MARRIAGE GOES THROUGH SEASONS...
Twenty-one years is a long time to be married (To be anything for that matter) and I can truly say that my husband and I are in a REALLY GOOD PLACE right now! Marriage, just like everything else on earth, goes through seasons and changes. I would be lying if I tried to insinuate that every day as a married person is WONDERFUL. There are days that your spouse will get on your last nerve. You will argue and have disagreements, this is normal and there is no need to panic! EVERY MARRIAGE GOES THROUGH IT! YOU ARE NOT ALONE! No big deal, roll with the tide! The important thing to learn early on is that you are in control of the climate in your marriage. You control the seasons with your emotion and ego. Too much or too little of either, sets the temperature of your union! We cannot change our mates into robots that do as we wish! Your spouse is a real person with their own issues and bad habits. Learn to adjust your need to always be in control and allow room for errors and growth. You will learn to live in harmony if you remember that you are not the easiest person to live with either.
"The Season of Attraction," (Summer) is the best one, in my opinion. It's the season when you two can't get enough of one another. Everything is coming up roses and your honey can do no wrong.
Then "The Season of Change," (Fall) starts to roll around and you begin to ask yourself what happened? You feel irritated at the little things your mate does seemingly just to tick you off. Leaving the toilet seat up, socks on the floor, and whatever else he or she does that pushes your buttons. You start to grow weary of asking politely for them to respect your request for change because your kindness is not getting the results you'd hoped. Change is when the real you are exposed to one another, and you are adjusting. Adjusting to sharing everything can be scary and tricky. You wonder if you made the right decision. You are taking risk and testing new waters, hoping to learn that your mate is trustworthy, kind, and willing to live up to the responsibility of marriage.
Change pushes you right on into "A Season of Realization," let's refer to it as Winter. The Winter Season is the coldest of all the rest. You should pray that this season doesn't last very long! This is the phase of marriage where things are bad! Communication is terrible between you two. Things are really falling apart, and you are thinking about packing your bags. Financial strain is the number one cause for winter in most marriages. There is little to no sexual activity during this season. You didn't realize you could be married and lonely at the same time but, it's possible during the "Realization" phase. What's that old saying? Whatever doesn't kill you-makes you stronger! Keep that in mind during this difficult time and will your love to LIVE.
If you hang in there and make it through winter.... The "I Surrender Season," (Spring) rushes in to save you both. This is the season where you realize that all that fighting was stupid! You reach for the toothpaste as your mate reaches for the toothbrush, hands accidentally touch, and as if you were instantly released by the lovie dovie goddess herself, you two are interrupting each other to apologize for being selfish and hurtful! Spring is the "Begin Again" phase of marriage! "I Surrender Season," is the time in marriage when you just give up the useless fighting because you realize you would rather be with your spouse than without them. I surrender doesn't mean that your spouse was right and your reason for being mad was totally wrong. I Surrender means, at this point I don't care who was right or wrong, I love you and I want to get back to being happily married!
Although seasons come and go in marriage, your love for one another is an all-weather gear! Your foundation is strong and no winds of change or cold of winter can tear you apart! Try your hardest to live in the hot and steamy, possibility of Being Happily Married.... O.K.? O.K.!!!
"The Season of Attraction," (Summer) is the best one, in my opinion. It's the season when you two can't get enough of one another. Everything is coming up roses and your honey can do no wrong.
Then "The Season of Change," (Fall) starts to roll around and you begin to ask yourself what happened? You feel irritated at the little things your mate does seemingly just to tick you off. Leaving the toilet seat up, socks on the floor, and whatever else he or she does that pushes your buttons. You start to grow weary of asking politely for them to respect your request for change because your kindness is not getting the results you'd hoped. Change is when the real you are exposed to one another, and you are adjusting. Adjusting to sharing everything can be scary and tricky. You wonder if you made the right decision. You are taking risk and testing new waters, hoping to learn that your mate is trustworthy, kind, and willing to live up to the responsibility of marriage.
Change pushes you right on into "A Season of Realization," let's refer to it as Winter. The Winter Season is the coldest of all the rest. You should pray that this season doesn't last very long! This is the phase of marriage where things are bad! Communication is terrible between you two. Things are really falling apart, and you are thinking about packing your bags. Financial strain is the number one cause for winter in most marriages. There is little to no sexual activity during this season. You didn't realize you could be married and lonely at the same time but, it's possible during the "Realization" phase. What's that old saying? Whatever doesn't kill you-makes you stronger! Keep that in mind during this difficult time and will your love to LIVE.
If you hang in there and make it through winter.... The "I Surrender Season," (Spring) rushes in to save you both. This is the season where you realize that all that fighting was stupid! You reach for the toothpaste as your mate reaches for the toothbrush, hands accidentally touch, and as if you were instantly released by the lovie dovie goddess herself, you two are interrupting each other to apologize for being selfish and hurtful! Spring is the "Begin Again" phase of marriage! "I Surrender Season," is the time in marriage when you just give up the useless fighting because you realize you would rather be with your spouse than without them. I surrender doesn't mean that your spouse was right and your reason for being mad was totally wrong. I Surrender means, at this point I don't care who was right or wrong, I love you and I want to get back to being happily married!
Although seasons come and go in marriage, your love for one another is an all-weather gear! Your foundation is strong and no winds of change or cold of winter can tear you apart! Try your hardest to live in the hot and steamy, possibility of Being Happily Married.... O.K.? O.K.!!!
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