PUT LOVE ON THE SCHEDULE AS AN APPOINTMENT THAT SHOULD NOT BE RESCHEDULED !
Do you and your spouse have a date night? What about a favorite coffee shop you frequent for mid-day rendezvous? Do you have a hobby that you enjoy doing together? How many days a week would you say you both devote to shutting out the world and making a LOVE Connection? If you are serious about having a happy marriage, these are questions you must ask yourself and prioritize your life so that LOVE has a place in that hectic schedule.
Many years ago, I was watching an Oprah episode, and some expert doctor was giving the statistics on how many nights a week the average couple had sex. I secretly counted my own in my head and realized - I needed to add another day because I didn't want anything about my marriage to be average [You feel me?]! The doctor went on to say that most couples don't really take the necessary time to connect, and her homework assignment was to start passionately kissing daily. The kiss was to last at least 40 seconds (it was so long ago but, I think it was less than a minute) and you were instructed to really look into each other's eyes and have a moment of clarity about what your marriage should mean to the both of you! I sat there and tried to remember the last time I had shared a passionate kiss with my husband. I hate to tell you that it had been a while. We had the habit of giving a quick peck here and there as a way of saying good morning, see you later, or good night. I didn't feel disconnected from my husband at all but, I had to admit that the prospect of getting closer didn't sound so bad either. I told my husband about the show and asked him if he would agree to try the kiss and to my surprise, he thought it was a great idea. My husband took the opportunity to tell me that he missed me. It was exactly as the doctor had described. Couples going through life with busy schedules, you talk but you don't have time to listen. My honey didn't have to tell me twice, I immediately started thinking of ways to show him just how much I missed him also and MARRIAGE MAINTENANCE MONDAYS was born. It would be Monday's that we both had off from work and the kids were to be at school! THE PERFECT OPPORTUNITY for us to get lost in infatuation (A foolish, unreasoning, or extravagant passion or attraction) for one another. I found myself daydreaming about the up-and-coming Monday all throughout my week. I looked forward to those times alone and I would write notes to my husband suggesting places we should go and things we should do. I do believe this ritual was born about year five of our marriage and miraculously at year seventeen we are still passionately kissing daily and devoting Monday's to renewing our connection.
Take the time today to check your calendar and put Love somewhere on there in a permanent and regularly scheduled slot. For some of you the weekends are best, but I don't want you to get caught up on the time of day or the day of the week. As long as you two are together and remembering what it felt like to want to spend time together. Remember when alone time with your mate was high on the priority list (before the children, housework, church, work, and bills) and all you wanted to do was express to them how much they meant to you? Devote a night or day, two hour or thirty-minute slot.... WHATEVER WORKS FOR THE TWO OF YOU! Be creative and really put some thought into each date.
Many years ago, I was watching an Oprah episode, and some expert doctor was giving the statistics on how many nights a week the average couple had sex. I secretly counted my own in my head and realized - I needed to add another day because I didn't want anything about my marriage to be average [You feel me?]! The doctor went on to say that most couples don't really take the necessary time to connect, and her homework assignment was to start passionately kissing daily. The kiss was to last at least 40 seconds (it was so long ago but, I think it was less than a minute) and you were instructed to really look into each other's eyes and have a moment of clarity about what your marriage should mean to the both of you! I sat there and tried to remember the last time I had shared a passionate kiss with my husband. I hate to tell you that it had been a while. We had the habit of giving a quick peck here and there as a way of saying good morning, see you later, or good night. I didn't feel disconnected from my husband at all but, I had to admit that the prospect of getting closer didn't sound so bad either. I told my husband about the show and asked him if he would agree to try the kiss and to my surprise, he thought it was a great idea. My husband took the opportunity to tell me that he missed me. It was exactly as the doctor had described. Couples going through life with busy schedules, you talk but you don't have time to listen. My honey didn't have to tell me twice, I immediately started thinking of ways to show him just how much I missed him also and MARRIAGE MAINTENANCE MONDAYS was born. It would be Monday's that we both had off from work and the kids were to be at school! THE PERFECT OPPORTUNITY for us to get lost in infatuation (A foolish, unreasoning, or extravagant passion or attraction) for one another. I found myself daydreaming about the up-and-coming Monday all throughout my week. I looked forward to those times alone and I would write notes to my husband suggesting places we should go and things we should do. I do believe this ritual was born about year five of our marriage and miraculously at year seventeen we are still passionately kissing daily and devoting Monday's to renewing our connection.
Take the time today to check your calendar and put Love somewhere on there in a permanent and regularly scheduled slot. For some of you the weekends are best, but I don't want you to get caught up on the time of day or the day of the week. As long as you two are together and remembering what it felt like to want to spend time together. Remember when alone time with your mate was high on the priority list (before the children, housework, church, work, and bills) and all you wanted to do was express to them how much they meant to you? Devote a night or day, two hour or thirty-minute slot.... WHATEVER WORKS FOR THE TWO OF YOU! Be creative and really put some thought into each date.
Wives, when your husband comes home from work today, STOP EVERYTHING YOU ARE DOING AND LOVINGLY KISS THAT MAN WITH INTENSITY. That kiss should say all that you have been meaning to say all week but couldn't find the time (only takes 40 seconds or so 😉)! Your husband will appreciate your initiative because they don't like to always be the pursuant. Husbands need to feel wanted also! Our husbands don't want us to feel as though sex is the only thing on their minds (even though it is - ALL THE TIME) so when you are the one being passionate and acting all in love with him, your marriage and your man will be renewed in all areas! Put Love on the calendar and this is an appointment that should never be rescheduled, O.K.? O.K.!
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