YES - I WOULD DO IT ALL OVER AGAIN!

My Hubby is away on a business trip, and I miss him something terrible. I hear people say, they like it when their spouse is not home. That's a very foreign concept to me, I missed my man while he was packing to leave, ↬ he hadn't even left yet. My husband is my best friend. He knows every secret I have. He knows my fears and flaws. He is returning tomorrow, and it's been a whole week since I've seen him. Of course, we talked every night before bed and he sent me text messages every day to say that he missed me too, which made me miss him even more [SIGH]. Today is the day he returns. This is the longest time we've ever been apart in 22yrs (we dated 2yrs before marrying) of us being together. I didn't realize I would be such a wreck. I should have though* I've been saying for years, "Like Folgers in my cup >< His love is good to the last drop!" And if you know anything about me and coffee - I absolutely/positively, must have my daily fill.

I am washing my hair, painting my nails, ETC (could lead to TMI so I'll just stop there), in preparation of his return, because I want to be PRETTY when he gets off that plane. I like to remind him of what he has in me, and I want him to always be proud that he chose me to be his wife. It's so important to keep the attraction for one another. Don't take for granted the love that your spouse gives for better or worse. Just aim to always give them the "Better" of you. Remember the old saying? "Whatever it took to get him, is what it will take to keep him" words to live by wives! You get dressed up to go out with friends. You take great care in your appearance for work. Why not make sure that you look good for your mate too. Every night can't be a raggedy pajama night. Do you really have to wrap your hair in that awful scarf seven days a week? When you were dating your love, you wouldn't dare let him see you looking anything less than "PERFECT". Vow to keep that same mentality throughout your marriage. There are definitely days when you get or grant a pass and he does too but, being that men are visual creatures, I urge the ladies to do your best to look presentable even when you are just lounging around the house. When my husband gets a mental picture of me when he's away, I want him salivating. (((SMILE))) No one deserves the best I have to give more than him. My best presentation of support, affection, and gratitude accompanied by my best physical appearance. I sincerely feel this way and I'm not just writing some made up philosophies for this blog. I promised to always tell you the truth and keep it all the way real and that will never change. I want you to find your way to the happiest marriage you can possibly have. Physical attraction is very important in a marriage and the sooner you start seeing it that way, the easier it will become to make the extra effort it takes to keep the spark in your marriage BLAZING!!!

So, the title of this particular blog is "YES, I WOULD DO IT ALL OVER AGAIN" and it has me reminiscing about my wedding day and all the events that surrounded it. We were so very young, and we really didn't have mentor marriages to mirror ours by. I had no clue what it would take to make a happy home. What really was a "Good Wife?" Trying to find the answer to that question, I bumped my head a few times and burned my share of ruined romantic dinners. I even remember an instance where I turned all of his white underwear pink in the wash. Epic fail, one disaster after another, or so it seemed until I realized that he loved me for who I was, not for how I cooked or washed clothes. This is such an important point for married couples to learn. Love your spouse for who they are not for what they can do for you. All that your mate brings to the table is just icing on the cake. The core of who they are should be why you continuously fall in love with them over and over again, without condition. All that you are and ever hope to be, make you the total package. The fact that you are funny, cook great meals, and know everything about his favorite sports team, etc., is the BONUS*

Love that makes no demands is ever lasting. Love that challenges us to be better is unbreakable. Love that goes the extra mile to please our mate will outlast the test of time. My hope is that you get comfortable with the promise of longevity in your love for one another. Relax into the realization that you have made a lifelong commitment. You are obligated to do a whole bunch of stuff that you won't mind doing because the benefits of happily married life far outweigh the effort it will take to make each other happy. It is possible to walk through life as an inseparable pair who are madly/passionately in love. Start to believe that the fairytale is totally possible, and it will happen for you. Married people don't have the option of being selfish. It's always a good idea to consider your spouse's needs and view them as important as your own. If while reading this blog, you find yourself at any time saying "I'm not going to do all that" or "I didn't sign up for all this" let me quickly remind you, yes you did! This is what marriage is boo* Giving of yourself. Selflessness is what it's going to take to be successful at it.

If you could do it all over again, would you? Taking into consideration every struggle, every disagreement, and every mess up. On the flip side - remember every make up, the laughs shared, the victories won, the intimacy exchanged, and the obstacles you have overcome as a couple? Don't you think the good far outweigh the bad? My answer to that question is YES!!! Being in a fulfilling marriage is totally worth it! Love is totally worth every single tear. Have we had our hard times? Absolutely, but they have made us stronger. Have there been some rough days? Sure, but we made it through without breaking the bonds of our relationship. Life will throw you curve balls, no matter who you are. Learn to bend but don't break. Everyday won't be a fairytale, but it doesn't have to be, if you know what you have is worth holding on to. You can't ever give up! You can't ever throw in the towel! Leaving is no longer an option! Embrace the idea that you are responsible for the climate of your marriage and keep reaching for higher heights. I am a happily married wife and "I Do" today, yesterday, and forever!! I did, I do, and I always will.... O.k.? O.k.!

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